An anonymous woman has sparked an online debate after suggesting the idea of a ‘no-gift policy’ at her child’s birthday party that would prevent their 25 guests from bringing gifts.
The mum posted on Mumsnet asking others what they thought of her idea and explained that she was considering implementing it because she didn’t want huge piles of presents to ‘become the norm’ for her child, Liverpool Echo reports.
She insisted the little one, who will soon be three, will receive ‘important gifts’ from his parents, but the no-gift policy will mean other children attending their birthday party will not bring gifts with them.
In a publication titled ‘Am I unreasonable to have a no-gift policy for my child’s 3rd birthday?’, the mum wrote: ‘Just that really. My child is having a 3rd birthday party which 25 other children will be attending Is it acceptable to ask that no gifts be given by other children?
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“My husband and I are going to give my child a few important gifts. I find the flood of presents for birthdays and Christmas these days completely overwhelming and I don’t want this to become the norm for my child. We already have so many .”
The mum’s post caused a stir with other parents as some thought she was being ‘mean’ in limiting her child’s birthday presents – with many saying receiving lots of presents is part of the ‘magic’ of the birthday.
One person said: “I think it’s mean and it will make people feel uncomfortable. Do you plan to do this for every birthday? I don’t think it’s doable. Let him enjoy his birthday and gifts.”
While another added: “I think part of the magic of parties and birthdays at this age is having a little stack of presents to open, not just two carefully chosen presents from mum. He will soon have old enough to realize that he takes a present at parties but no one buys it back.”
Many others praised the mother’s commitment to making sure her family doesn’t waste and waste toys and other items they don’t need, although most said it was a better idea to donate unwanted gifts to charity than to impose a blanket ban. on birthday presents.
Someone noted: “You could let him unbox them but sneak a few for charity?”
As someone else agreed, writing, “Why can’t you keep some and give away the rest?”
And there were even people who completely agreed with the mum, saying the gift ban was fine – especially when her child is only three years old and probably won’t notice the lack of gifts.
One mum said: “I think for second and third birthdays it’s fine to say no gifts. Three is still very small, they won’t know much different. I recently went to a third birthday that was not a gift, I was so relieved!
“Plus, I think no presents means you don’t have to do party bags. Just cakes, games, good times.”
While another posted: “I don’t see a problem with that to be honest! I would ask the same, it’s not like there will be no gifts but no friends. “
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